The ineffability of co-existence
Open yourself to everything around and you’ll see a lot of dichotomies flowing:- Truth and lie, good and bad, construction and destruction, nature and cities, and OH! here’s my favourite, Brain and mind. (All these elements coexist hence the the usage of the conjunction ‘and’)
I’ll come again..
Brain and mind. The biggest paradox.
Our Brain is an organised network of neurons; a structure that harbours the most sophisticated machinery that runs it. Neurologists will brief you on that, not my department.
My business however, is to acquaint you with the biggest dichotomy that we dock in us.
Our brain is as organised as it gets, yet our mind is a mess. A labyrinth, that explored deeper can either imprison you, or let you out with a deep revelation that changes you forever. Nevertheless, going in is a huge gamble.
They say “look inside”. HA-HA Easier said than done honey. Even when you get in, which is pretty easier by the way; it’s harder to get outside the beehive of your mind. I mean, I don’t have to say much, look at the statistics for depression worldwide, you’ll begin to see what exactly it is that I’m trying to say. Anxiety, panic attacks, and all the mild to severe disorders are the cause of glitches in the machinery of our mind. The confusing assortment of signals that it sends us, leaves us gaping at life with awestruck expressions.
Yet, the mind is hackable, a fortress in its singularity but penetrable indeed. Presenting to you, the ‘destination analogy’ *drum roll*.. *bang*
When going to a new place for the first time, the journey from say, A to B seems pretty confusing and taxing, because we don’t know what the path is. We go through wrong paths, come back, pick a new path, run this trial and error in oscillation, ask other people and perform our own permutations and combinations to reach our destination. Yet the process becomes so much easier when there is someone to guide us from the very inception of our journey. Enter google maps. Google maps, because of being “up there” can very easily steer us to our destination because they are guiding us from the vantage point of clarity. We on the other hand have only a narrow, 180 degree view of the world.
I arrived at this analogy during one of my flights back home. We were descending and we had a clear view of the Chandigarh city, how to go where and all that. Yet I remembered how difficult it had gotten for us when I came to the city for the first time via our car (GPS not being much of a thing then)
We wade through life with blindfolds that give us only a partial view of the world around. That is why, when our minds are seen from the perspective of other person, who’s not deluged in our emotions, and problems and all the mess going on inside, they are easier to figure out. That is why they say, “seek some professional help”. Basically, these guys know the chemistry of your mind. Not only them, all the major organisations in this world understand your psyche and it depends on them whether they manipulate you(refer to the recent Cambridge Analytica scandal) or help you get out of the mess. (meditation practices)
The chaos in mind is why we seek company, we are afraid to be left alone with our thoughts, and thats why in many different ways, we beg people to stay with us, because somewhere some void gets filled in their presence. Some people can do with anyone, but some like me, who feel lonely amongst a sea of people who care for them, are pretty singular in choosing who should be there in such times. Regardless, turmoil seeps in again, when those people leave us. A “filling” that goes back to being void. That is because we don’t know what it is. Hence the loop does the job that it’s delegated with, it flows.
Having said that all of that, I think we can only be partially complete, there are still some things that can only be resolved through love and support, but as discussed in my last post on uncertainty, we can not expect a person to always be there for us, people have to leave, in different ways. In times like this, we can understand our emotions, gather the strength gained from their love, and move forward.
So you see how different things intersect.
Someone has to intervene, to stop this loop, and it has to be you. If you take the charge of coming out of the chaos, you very much can offer a helping hand to yourself, disentangling your way out of the complex wiring in there. (Your own version of prison break) True, you need another person to hold your hand to get out, but that ultimately has to be you. Others can only offer you consultation, but its you who has to decode your mind to create order out of chaos.
For that you have to take a step back, see your mind in hologram. The process is a messy and complex one, but once you are able to, you’ll emerge out strong, thereby aligning your brain and mind, and yes of course it takes time.
The process isn’t that robotic either. Introspection will be the keyword you’ll be looking for here. The review of how your inner reality connects with the external world is important. Its you, who sets the direction of the flow.
I’ll always root for looking inside out, but what I also believe is that your external world is merely an extrapolation of your inner world, so looking outside can help explain certain aspects of mind, because the external world is much easier to pick.
I’m still going through this process, and whatever changes (micro or macro) I’ve witnessed, support the aforementioned things. Patience and consistency can help you get there.
Also, if you’re interested in the affairs of the mind, DO WATCH Jason Silva’s YouTube channel.
Thank you!
